- Years in practice
- 27
- Credentials
- LMFT
- Licensed in
- California
- Languages
- English
- Focus
- Stress, Anxiety
- Focus
- Relationship issues
- Focus
- Grief
About Lani
Lani Stoner is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with a long history in mental health. She draws on 27 years of direct clinical practice and decades more of related work to help people facing stress, anxiety, grief, parenting challenges, relationship strain, and other struggles. She works in English and practices from California.
Her style is practical and goal-focused. She often uses shorter-term methods but will work longer when needed.
Background and approach
Sessions focus on clear steps clients can try between meetings, and on building everyday coping skills that fit real life. Parents can expect straightforward strategies for common family and parenting pressures. Early career work in public mental health exposed her to a wide range of needs, including chronic mental illness, caregiver stress, and trauma.
She later moved into independent practice and online work, continuing to support people with mood concerns, addiction, and complex life changes. That background guides how she notices patterns and suggests changes. She blends client-centered listening with active techniques from cognitive behavioral and mindfulness approaches.
Narrative and solution-focused ideas also appear in sessions when useful. The focus is on collaboration and on finding a manageable plan that fits each person's situation. Lani emphasizes a calm, pragmatic approach.
She pays attention to family of origin themes, communication problems, and issues like chronic pain or medical stress. Her experience includes work with LGBTQQIP2SAA people and with those affected by disasters, caregiving burdens, and fertility or end-of-life concerns.
What Lani works with
Everything Lani lists, in the therapist's own terms. Parenting is the reason this directory exists; the rest shows what else Lani helps people with.
- Stress, Anxiety
- Relationship issues
- Grief
- Depression
- Coping with life changes
- Addictions
- LGBT
- Family conflicts
- Trauma and abuse
- Intimacy-related issues
- Sleeping disorders
- Parenting issues
- Anger management
- Self esteem
- Career difficulties
- Bipolar disorder
- Compassion fatigue
- ADHD
- Aging and geriatric issues
- Blended family issues
- Cancer
- Caregiver issues and stress
- Chronic pain, illness, and disability
- Co-morbidity
- Communication problems
- Coping with natural or human-caused disaster
- Disruptive Mood Dysregulation Disorder (DMDD)
- Dissociation
- Divorce and separation
- Emptiness
- Family of origin issues
- Family problems
- Fertility issues
- First responder issues
- Forgiveness
- Guilt and shame
- HIV / AIDS
- Hospice and end-of-life counseling
- Infidelity
- Isolation / loneliness
- Life purpose
- Midlife crisis
- Veteran and Armed Forces Issues
- Mood disorders
- Multicultural concerns
- Obsessions, compulsions, and OCD
- Panic disorder and panic attacks
- Phobias
- Postpartum depression
- Post-traumatic stress
- Pregnancy and childbirth
- Prejudice and discrimination
- Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)
- Self-harm
- Self-love
- Social anxiety and phobia
- Traumatic brain injury
- Women's issues
- Workplace issues
- Young adult issues
Approaches Lani lists
- Client-Centered Therapy
- Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
- Mindfulness Therapy
- Narrative Therapy
- Solution-Focused Therapy
Listing an approach is not evidence of training in it. This directory copies what each therapist names and does not check training records.
Practical online approaches for parenting and life challenges
Client-Centered Therapy focuses on listening and understanding each person's perspective so they feel heard and can explore what matters most to them. It helps people clarify goals and build confidence in their own choices.Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, or CBT, looks at the links between thoughts, feelings, and actions and teaches concrete skills to change unhelpful patterns. It is useful for anxiety, depression, sleep problems, and recurring parenting or relationship struggles.
Mindfulness Therapy teaches simple awareness exercises to reduce stress and increase focus on the present moment. These practices can help with emotional regulation, coping with chronic pain, and managing intense feelings.
Choosing an approach is a collaborative process. The therapist will discuss goals, preferences, and what has or hasn't worked before, then suggest a plan that blends methods when helpful. Clients and the therapist check in regularly and adjust techniques together.
Online formats include video calls, phone sessions, live chat, and text-based messaging. Video sessions let people work face to face from different locations. Phone sessions use less bandwidth and can fit a break at work. Live chat or text messaging can be used for brief check-ins or ongoing support between meetings. These options make scheduling more flexible and help therapy fit into busy family lives.
Questions people ask about Lani
What kinds of concerns does she help with?
She helps people with stress, anxiety, depression, grief, relationship and intimacy issues, parenting challenges, ADHD, bipolar concerns, addiction, trauma and related problems.
What is her therapeutic style like?
Her approach is active and practical, blending client-centered listening with structured techniques to set goals and try small changes between sessions.
How long has she worked in mental health?
She has worked in the mental health field since the late 1970s and has 27 years of documented clinical experience in direct practice.
What are her credentials and where is she based?
She is a CA LMFT - Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist practicing from California.
Which languages are used in sessions?
Sessions are offered in English.
Can people outside the U.S. work with her?
International clients are not currently accepted; she works with people located in California.
What session formats are available?
Sessions can be scheduled as video calls, phone sessions, live chat, or text-based messaging to match different needs and preferences.
How does cost and starting therapy work?
Cost varies with location and therapist availability and uses a subscription model that can be canceled at any time; to begin, select the Start Therapy button, complete a short matching questionnaire, and schedule a session.
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