- Years in practice
- 15
- Credentials
- LMFT
- Licensed in
- California
- Languages
- English, German
- Focus
- Stress, Anxiety
- Focus
- Relationship issues
- Focus
- Family conflicts
About Anke
Anke Kalaiah is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) with 15 years of clinical experience. She offers practical help for parents and adults who feel overwhelmed by stress, anxiety, relationship strain, grief, or major life changes. She speaks English and German and practices in California.
Anke focuses on clear, usable tools you can try between sessions. She draws on client-centered work to follow what matters most to each person.
Background and approach
She also uses cognitive behavioral techniques to spot and shift unhelpful thinking and behaviors. Her background includes a Master of Arts in Counseling Psychology from Santa Clara University and previous study in German and social psychology at Ruhr University in Bochum, Germany. She earned her California LMFT license in 2014 and has worked across clinical settings since then.
In recent years she has concentrated on trauma, domestic and sexual abuse, family and marital conflict, divorce, coparenting, blended family dynamics, and parenting concerns. She helps people untangle complex family patterns and build coping strategies for stress, grief, and mood difficulties. Sessions blend skill teaching with a strengths-based, solutions-focused outlook.
Expect collaborative planning, concrete homework, and attention to what fits your life. Anke aims to help clients develop emotion regulation, distress tolerance, and improved communication in relationships.
What Anke works with
Everything Anke lists, in the therapist's own terms. Parenting is the reason this directory exists; the rest shows what else Anke helps people with.
- Stress, Anxiety
- Relationship issues
- Family conflicts
- Trauma and abuse
- Parenting issues
- Addictions
- LGBT
- Grief
- Intimacy-related issues
- Anger management
- Self esteem
- Career difficulties
- Bipolar disorder
- Depression
- Coping with life changes
- Coaching
- Compassion fatigue
- ADHD
- Abandonment
- Adoption and foster care
- Aging and geriatric issues
- Attachment issues
- BDSM, kink, and alternative sex culture
- Blended family issues
- Caregiver issues and stress
- Codependency
- Commitment issues
- Communication problems
- Control issues
- Coping with natural or human-caused disaster
- Divorce and separation
- Domestic violence
- Family of origin issues
- Family problems
- First responder issues
- Forgiveness
- Guilt and shame
- Immigration issues
- Infidelity
- Isolation / loneliness
- Jealousy
- Life purpose
- Midlife crisis
- Money and financial issues
- Mood disorders
- Multicultural concerns
- Polyamory / non-monogamous relationships
- Postpartum depression
- Post-traumatic stress
- Pregnancy and childbirth
- Prejudice and discrimination
- Self-love
- Sexual assault and abuse
- Sexuality
- Social anxiety and phobia
- Women's issues
- Workplace issues
- Young adult issues
Approaches Anke lists
- Client-Centered Therapy
- Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
- Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)
- Mindfulness Therapy
- Motivational Interviewing
- Solution-Focused Therapy
- Trauma-Focused Therapy
Listing an approach is not evidence of training in it. This directory copies what each therapist names and does not check training records.
Therapeutic methods and online care that fit family life
Client-centered therapy focuses on listening and following the concerns you bring. The therapist treats you as the expert on your life and helps you set the direction and pace of work, which can be useful for parenting and relationship questions.Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, or CBT, helps identify how thoughts, feelings, and behaviors interact. It gives clear exercises to test unhelpful beliefs and develop alternative responses, which often helps with anxiety, stress, and mood problems.
Dialectical Behavior Therapy, or DBT, teaches practical skills for emotion regulation, distress tolerance, mindfulness, and interpersonal effectiveness. These tools are useful when strong emotions, conflict, or repeated patterns cause strain in daily life.
Finding the right approach is a collaborative process. The therapist will talk with each person about their goals and preferences and then try methods that fit their situation. Adjustments are made over time based on what helps the client make progress.
Online sessions are offered by video call, phone, live chat, or text-based messaging to fit different needs. Video calls allow face-to-face conversation for deeper work, phone sessions can be easier when bandwidth is limited, and chat or text can suit quick check-ins or people who prefer typing. These options make therapy flexible around work, caregiving, and busy schedules.
Questions people ask about Anke
What concerns does Anke commonly address?
She works with stress, anxiety, depression, relationship and family concerns, grief, trauma and abuse, parenting issues, addictions, and related challenges such as codependency and communication problems.
How would you describe her therapy style?
Her style is client-centered and practical. She uses a strengths-based, solutions-focused approach with skill teaching from CBT and DBT to help clients manage emotions and behaviors.
What is her professional background?
Anke holds a Master of Arts in Counseling Psychology from Santa Clara University and studied German and social psychology at Ruhr University. She has about 15 years of clinical experience in varied settings.
What credentials and region should I know about?
She is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) licensed in California. Her practice is based in California.
Which languages are available for sessions?
Sessions are offered in English and German. International clients are not currently accepted.
What session formats are offered?
She meets with clients via video calls, phone sessions, live chat, and text-based messaging.
How is cost handled for sessions?
Cost varies with location and therapist availability. Sessions use a subscription that can be canceled at any time.
What are the first steps to begin therapy?
Start by selecting the Start Therapy button, complete a short matching questionnaire, and then schedule sessions according to therapist availability.
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