- Years in practice
- 23
- Credentials
- LMFT
- Licensed in
- California
- Languages
- English
- Focus
- Stress, Anxiety
- Focus
- Relationship issues
- Focus
- Parenting issues
About Allan
Allan Herem is a licensed marriage and family therapist with 23 years of clinical experience. He helps adults manage stress, anxiety, low self-esteem, and depression. Parents looking for guidance with parenting challenges will find focused support for practical problems and everyday strains.
Allan listens for patterns that affect relationship dynamics and communication. He helps people name emotions and practice clearer ways of talking with others. Sessions often include straightforward skills for calming anxiety and handling conflicts without blame.
Background and approach
His work addresses attachment wounds, feelings of emptiness, and issues tied to family of origin. He also helps people facing abandonment concerns, forgiveness struggles, and guilt. Fatherhood issues and caregiver stress are common topics he addresses with respect for each person’s story.
Allan draws on evidence-based therapeutic techniques and adapts them to each person’s needs. He encourages small, doable changes that fit daily life. Conversations focus on values, responsibility, and rebuilding trust in relationships.
Clients can expect a warm but direct style. Allan aims to create a space for honest talk and practical problem solving. He works with people who want clearer communication, steadier mood, and better ways to manage family pressures.
What Allan works with
Everything Allan lists, in the therapist's own terms. Parenting is the reason this directory exists; the rest shows what else Allan helps people with.
- Stress, Anxiety
- Relationship issues
- Parenting issues
- Self esteem
- Depression
- Abandonment
- Attachment issues
- Caregiver issues and stress
- Commitment issues
- Communication problems
- Control issues
- Divorce and separation
- Emptiness
- Family of origin issues
- Family problems
- Fatherhood issues
- Forgiveness
- Guilt and shame
- Impulsivity
- Infidelity
- Isolation / loneliness
- Jealousy
- Life purpose
- Men's issues
- Midlife crisis
- Money and financial issues
- Mood disorders
- Self-love
- Social anxiety and phobia
- Workplace issues
- Young adult issues
How evidence-based techniques are used online
Allan uses evidence-based therapeutic techniques to address problems like anxiety, depression, and relationship strain. One common approach focuses on skills for managing anxiety and mood, teaching breathing, grounding, and daily routines that reduce distress. Another emphasizes understanding attachment and relationship patterns, helping people see how past relationships shape current behavior and try new ways of relating.Finding the right approach is part of the work. Allan collaborates with each person to decide which methods fit their needs and goals. He checks in regularly and adjusts techniques based on what is helping and what feels doable in daily life.
Online therapy lets people connect in multiple ways that suit their schedule. Video calls allow face-to-face conversation for deeper exchanges. Phone sessions can be used when bandwidth is limited or a camera is not convenient. Live chat and text-based messaging offer ongoing check-ins, brief coaching, and quick follow-ups between sessions. These options make it easier to fit therapy into work, parenting, and caregiving routines while keeping progress steady.
Questions people ask about Allan
What concerns does Allan commonly address?
He works with stress, anxiety, depression, relationship and parenting concerns, and self-esteem issues. Additional focuses include attachment, abandonment, caregiver stress, and infidelity.
How would you describe his therapeutic style?
His style is warm and direct with an emphasis on practical skills. Sessions focus on clearer communication and actionable steps for everyday life.
How much clinical experience does he have?
He has 23 years of experience providing therapy to adults. That background informs his approach to relationship and parenting concerns.
What are his credentials and where is he based?
He is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, LMFT, practicing in California.
Which languages are supported in sessions?
Sessions are offered in English.
What session formats are available?
He offers video calls, phone sessions, live chat, and text-based messaging for therapy.
How does payment and cost work?
Cost varies with location and therapist availability; sessions use a subscription that can be canceled at any time.
How do I begin therapy with him?
Click the Start Therapy button, complete a short matching questionnaire, and schedule according to therapist availability.
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